Lonely

Have you ever feel alone walking on this road? There is no one that can understand what you are going through.

I am here to tell you, “ YOU ARE NOT ALONE, MY FRIEND." 

What you have been through, there is another person out there who had also go through the same thing as you.

Besides, there is ALWAYS someone who is just there to wait for you to talk to Him. He is God. He understands and He knows.

What can we do when we feel lonely?

Be still and know He is God.Sometimes we just need to be still. Don’t worry. Don’t over-think a situation. Just calm your heart and know He had it all in control

·         Remember you are not alone.

Matthew 28:20 Lo, I am always with you always

Deutronomy 31:8 Be strong and of good courage

The phase you are going through will not last. Be courageous my friend!

·         Give THANKS!!

2 Corinthians 4:17-18 For this slight momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, because we look not at the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen.

You must think I am crazy to urge you to give thanks at times of loneliness and feeling down. When we give thanks especially in moments like this, our attitude will change from negative to positive. We will start looking at this moment in a new light and with a different perspective.

God had allowed you to go through this phase in order for you to learn something out of it. Take this lesson at heart that the Lord is disciplining you as a father disciplines his son/daughter. Be thankful, my friend.

·         Refuse self-pity!

SELF-PITY: self-indulgent attitude concerning one's own difficulties.  (Dictionary.com)

The definition of the word says it all; indulging in your own difficulties. It’s not good for the soul. REFUSE IT!

·         Accept your loneliness

It’s one stage and only one STAGE! It will not last forever. It’s a journey to bring you closer to God.

·        Offer your loneliness to God. It’s a material for sacrifice. This very longing can be offered up to Him who understands PERFECTLY.

We need to ‘die’ to self in order to live. Just like a seed that falls on dark earth and dies. Out of its death comes multiplied life.

·         Do something for somebody else

Be an instrument of God’s peace, that where there is loneliness you may bring joy.

We all have choices to deal with this.

a) Rebellion: if this is the will of God for me now, He doesn’t love me.

b) Rejection: If this is what God is giving me, I won’t have any part of it.

c) Faith: God knows exactly what He’s doing.

d) Acceptance: He loves me. He plan good things for me; I’ll take it.

I had chosen choice c) and d). I pray you will do so too. :D

Transparent

When I think of the word transparent what comes in my mind? ‘See through completely’. So, it’s like you can see beyond my flesh and bones and organs altogether. Imagine! I can see you but you can’t see me. :D That would be freaky!

Being transparent in a relationship gives us REAL fellowship with one another and also with God.

The way we relate to people, we also relate to God. First and foremost, we need to be TOTALLY TRANSPARENT before Him. He knows EVERYTHING. He knows the good and the bad experience we had. There is nothing we can hide from Him.

Let me tell you this, it is not an easy process to be transparent before God. The moment I knew that He knows it all, my mind wondered and thought whether will He ever forgive me?  Usually it’s the bad experience I would want to HIDE. But, God is a gracious God. He forgives! No matter how big and bad the sin is He still will with arms open wide receives me as His child. His amazing grace that I never once deserve He freely gives to me. This grace had given me a FRESH brand new START.

Being transparent with God will lead to being transparent with the people around us. I had enjoyed true fellowship with people around me. I thanked God for that.  

It takes so much energy to hide my real self with people. It’s tiring! Why not we convey the energy to just be truthful and transparent to people around us? It is relaxing to do so and we gain so much more from the relationship we have with people. Result we will be HAPPY PEOPLE! :D

It takes practice and courage to be transparent at first. Slowly it will be a lifestyle. Take courage my friend! Take the giant step to be transparent about your thoughts with God. (God is not scared of you being transparent and honest)

Spurgeon once defined the basis of fellowship is the willingness to know and to be known.